My daughter is really obsessed with her appearance, ever since she was about 12 she's always complained of being ugly (which she's not) and says at school boys don't like her and ppl tease her and compare her to others. She use to be a cheer leader ,but she dropped out because she felt like she was the ugliest girl on the team and she made everyone look bad.But it wasn't until now, (she's 17) that she's become obsessed with fixing herself constantly.
She thinks she looks like a man and complains her eyebrows are too bushy and she spends forever plucking her eyebrows and her upper lip,and she even shaves her stomach. She won't go to bed unless she washes her face three times with different face washes,and she uses like 4 different acne creams (and she has no acne) and then she sleeps with vaseline on her eye lashes to make them grow. And she's constantly biting her lips in hopes that they'll get pinker. She thinks her face is too fat. And hates her legs, so she refuses to wear shorts or skirts.
And if it's not one thing it's the other. She's always been very petite and slighty underweight,but she stopped eating and lost more weight, and now she even has digestive problems and she's anemic from not eating. But now she complains she's not curvy enough. And she doesn't want to gain weight but she's trying to get her breasts and waist to a perfect size. So she's taking different vitamins to give her nutrients and keep her healthy without eating. And biotin to make her hair grow
She says she wants laser dermatology treatment, breast implants. She puts on lipstick and make up for hours, and can sit in the bathroom staring in the mirror forever. She's upset because I won't get her colored contacts because she thinks her eyes are too dark. Basically she feels she's inferior to everyone. She's constantly complaining and putting herself down. She dyed her hair 5 different times in 2 months because her natural hair color is ugly to her.
She stays locked up in her bedroom in the dark all day. She doesn't want to be looked at or seen. And she even starts crying in public out of nowhere because she says "I'm so embarrassed of my face" look at everyone else and look at me. She usually wears sunglasses all the time even in doors or keeps her head down. And she has pictures of ppl from magazines all over her walls and just looks at different pictures of models online,as if she's in awe of them, and she says mom I wish I looked like her, they're lucky they're so pretty. Or she'll talk about someone from her school and say " she's lucky she's pretty enough to get a boyfriend or be liked" She's always irritable and depressed because she's never happy with herself
Is this normal teenage insecurity?? And what can I do to help her??
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My daughter is really obsessed with her appearance, ever since she was about 12 she's always complained of being ugly (which she's not) and says at school boys don't like her and ppl tease her and compare her to others. She use to be a cheer leader ,but she dropped out because she felt like she was the ugliest girl on the team and she made everyone look bad.But it wasn't until now, (she's 17) that she's become obsessed with fixing herself constantly.
She thinks she looks like a man and complains her eyebrows are too bushy and she spends forever plucking her eyebrows and her upper lip,and she even shaves her stomach. She won't go to bed unless she washes her face three times with different face washes,and she uses like 4 different acne creams (and she has no acne) and then she sleeps with vaseline on her eye lashes to make them grow. And she's constantly biting her lips in hopes that they'll get pinker. She thinks her face is too fat. And hates her legs, so she refuses to wear shorts or skirts.
And if it's not one thing it's the other. She's always been very petite and slighty underweight,but she stopped eating and lost more weight, and now she even has digestive problems and she's anemic from not eating. But now she complains she's not curvy enough. And she doesn't want to gain weight but she's trying to get her breasts and waist to a perfect size. So she's taking different vitamins to give her nutrients and keep her healthy without eating. And biotin to make her hair grow
She says she wants laser dermatology treatment, breast implants. She puts on lipstick and make up for hours, and can sit in the bathroom staring in the mirror forever. She's upset because I won't get her colored contacts because she thinks her eyes are too dark. Basically she feels she's inferior to everyone. She's constantly complaining and putting herself down. She dyed her hair 5 different times in 2 months because her natural hair color is ugly to her.
She stays locked up in her bedroom in the dark all day. She doesn't want to be looked at or seen. And she even starts crying in public out of nowhere because she says "I'm so embarrassed of my face" look at everyone else and look at me. She usually wears sunglasses all the time even in doors or keeps her head down. And she has pictures of ppl from magazines all over her walls and just looks at different pictures of models online,as if she's in awe of them, and she says mom I wish I looked like her, they're lucky they're so pretty. Or she'll talk about someone from her school and say " she's lucky she's pretty enough to get a boyfriend or be liked" She's always irritable and depressed because she's never happy with herself
Is this normal teenage insecurity?? And what can I do to help her??
Tags: acne creams, breast implants, cheer leader, colored contacts, different face, different times, digestive problems, eye lashes, eyebrows, face washes, laser dermatology, lipstick, natural hair color, perfect size, ppl, school boys, ugliest girl, underweight, upper lip, vaseline
Filed under Vitamin Acne Treatment by omercoil
Comments on Is this normal………….?
She sounds like she's pretty far beyond what's normal teenage insecurity, I'd get her to a therapist, pronto.
This isn't healthy, sounds like she has a clearcut eating disorder, she may be depressed as well…she needs help, and obviously it's too much for you to hep her with.
Best luck, hope she gets some help. In the end, you're her Mother, you can and should be able to make this happen whether she thinks she needs it or not.
That's normal, i think, because even my sister is like that.
Try to convince her that beauty is not everything.
{I don't know how to do that, the only good thing for my mother is my sister's not that much!}
ima tenager and i think its normal because the world is full of haters everyone is hating on her so just make a day with all girls and take her to the spa so she can relax and get the problem off her mind. nobaody in the world is cute not even that boy zac effron dont let nobody tease her or i will come up there myself
OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!
Ive got to say that I have never even heard of such a thing ever…Its normal to think that you look ugly….but to go do so much stuff like that i think its over over over doin it…I think you might need to talk to her and put down the law…..Take things away so that she like's until maybe she can be more confident…like the acne stuff…If she doesnt have the acne then she dont need the cream…..Tell her that it is ridiculous that she wants breast implants and that she wont eat…And if that dont work I think you might need to go to a sikiotrist–sorry bad spelling……..I hope I could help—Ally—
yeah it's normal….you can help her by getting her nails done or her hair hylighted..just suggesting
This isn't normal. Most people have insecurities, but she sounds like she have a serious problem with her self-image. I would consult a therapist who works with very sensitive people as soon as possible.
It's not normal. She may have body dysmorphic disorder. I would suggest taking her to a psychologist. Otherwise, she's going to struggle with eating disorders and poor self-esteem all of her life.
I don't know the proper term, but she suffers from a bad self-image. You might to talk about it to a doctor. She may need to see apsychiatrist.
Some women completely change their appearance because they think they are ugly. They have surgical operations, but they still do not like their appearance, and keep on having things changed. I know that teenagers are often unsure, but this is going a bit too far.
NO!!!!! absolutely not normal teenage insecurity!
i don't mean to yell, but i want to get my point across to you.
normal teenage insecurity is asking your friend "am i pretty" or "maybe i should lose 5 pounds."
what your daughter is going through is a whole nother animal. this is absolutely not normal and she needs drastic help.
you must get her to a psychiatrist AND a clinical social worker psychotherapist. she needs BOTH.
She needs professional help, the sooner the better.